Unite the USA

June Edition: Keep Defending Marriage

 Marriage = One Man and One Woman




Today it is "controversial" to say that marriage is between one man and one woman --but it's true. The Lord knows what He's doing when He creates each person. That's why it's so disturbing to see how people try to take His place and change His design. The Lord loves everyone, but He does not approve of homosexual practices. Such behavior is perverse and unnatural. He has the best in mind for each person He creates which is why the Bible clearly warns against homosexuality. From Genesis on, the Bible praises the marriage of a man and a woman, but it always speaks very critically of homosexual behavior whenever it is mentioned (i.e. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Jude 7, Romans 1:18-32, Leviticus 18:22).

Marriage is a holy and sacred institution created not by man, but by God. Marriage is between one man and one woman. God designed it that way; that is what it will always be. Marriage cannot be anything else but between one man and one woman.

Next week we will learn the U.S. Supreme Court's ruling about whether same-sex "marriage" will be legally recognized on the federal level. Earlier this week, the Pew Research Center released a report showing that media coverage was biased by a factor of 5 to 1 in favor of same-sex "marriage" so be alert. This is an attack on Judeo-Christian values and it's persecution against marriage.
Scripture clearly teaches that God designed marriage to be between one man and one woman - it can be nothing else but that. Like we have shared in a previous edition, Jesus said in Matthew 19:4-6, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let not man separate."
This edition of Unite the USA explains why marriage is always between a man and a woman. You will also find helpful tips and resources about how to address this issue along with an article by Kim Lehman called Frame the Truth and Stay on Message: Please Just Say Marriage.
Please pray daily for our country and for marriage to be protected. No matter what happens next week, remember that God is always on the throne and He will never leave or forsake us. So "keep on keeping on" and never give up on defending marriage!

God bless,
Carrie Stoelting and Stacie Stoelting
Founders of www.unitetheusa.org




Frame the Truth and Stay on Message: Please Just Say Marriage

By Kim Lehman 

Do you believe that marriage is, and only can be, between a man and a woman?  Do you believe it is the bedrock of society?  Finally, do you believe that Nature's God instituted marriage in the beginning?  If you said yes to all of these questions, this article is being written for you.  Let me explain.  Words matter and how you frame a message matters.  In fact, whoever defines the language controls the message and frames it in their favor.  This is why I am making the case that if you believe the above statement, then you can never use the word "gay" before the word "marriage".  If you do not believe me, then you should study the word battles in the abortion issue.  It was through my work with the Right to Life in Iowa that I learned these important lessons of language-first being that you never repeat your opposition's message or use "their" language.   Please read on before you write again to defend marriage.

Again, you never repeat your opposition's message in order to give your rebuttal.  Don't give them free space on your page.  This is by far the biggest error of the right.   The opposition said what they said to persuade, and they carefully crafted their words.  They have the disadvantage since they must "change" culture, so they are not going to use your words.   Christians and pro-life people react with very little strategy when they publish an article.  To their credit they want to defend truth and are willing to step out of their comfort zone to speak up-great, and thank you.  With that said, to their fault, they are not paying attention to how to fight the battle with words.  Consider why the liberal papers flip pro-lifers' words from "pro-life" to "anti-choice".  This is not an accident and has a definite motive behind it.  They want their readers to view pro-life people as an "anti" kind of people, which has the subliminal effect of making the reader want to disassociate with an "anti" group, as opposed to reporting us as "pro" life, which would have a drawing effect.  Take also into consideration the abortion industry's use of "pro-choice" instead of "anti-life".   Why do you think the largest abortion group in the United States call themselves Planned Parenthood instead of Abortions Aplenty?  The answer is obvious; they do not want people to view them as advancing more abortion.  Words really, really, really matter when engaging in social issues.

Let this be the rule of thumb when you want to engage in the battle of words:  Whoever defines the word, frames the issue in their favor.  So long as you use their language, you have yielded and helped them without even knowing it.

My hope is that my friends in this battle for marriage will be persuaded to stop using the opposition's language.  Make no mistake; marriage has been under attack for a long time.  You do not have to look far to realize that the younger generation places very little value on the institution.  Why is it under attack?  I am convinced that marriage is a reflection of the triune God, since he designed and instituted it.  So in fact, this is far more than what it appears.   Let's face it; God instituted marriage as his plan to populate the earth by creating each new generation and as a reflection of his love. 

Marriage is about a life-long commitment that includes bringing children into the world.  If a couple is unable to have children, they can either adopt or serve mankind in another way.  The order of society should still maintain a mother and a father uniting to pro-create and raise children.  This is so obvious that it is a wonderment that so many people are confused today.   However, it's not the first time in history that people have lost their way on this issue.  The question is:  how did we get here?  I believe a good place to start in understanding how America fell so fast as to devalue marriage can be found in Humane Vitae, written by Pope Paul IV.

I contend that the other side has done a good job dismantling marriage by using propaganda.  They took advantage of the fact that most people are lazy thinkers and do not like to be controversial.  Reframing the language began with a simple word-"gay", which at one time meant "happy" or "joyful", yet now it means someone who has sex with the same gender.  Not too long ago this sexual act was called perversion.  In fact, because of this perversion God's judgment fell on Sodom and Gomorrah, and men who engaged in this sexual act were thereafter referred to as Sodomites.   Like all sins that lead to eternal death, it should be treated for what it is-sin that can be forgiven.  Let's face it, all of us are sinners and need to repent to be restored to God.  However, it is evil to say that a sin is no longer a sin.  In the case of sexual perversion, many now say that people are born this way.  We are all born with a sinful nature-that is, a desire to sin.  Not only is everyone born bent to sin, but we are all born with a sexual drive.  The reality is, as sinners, we are all given the choice to act upon all types of sinful inclinations or to reject them to do what is right.   No one is without sin.  Make no mistake-there is no one without excuse.  Nature bears witness to the truth.  It is black and white.  The problem today is that people are buying into the lie that we can't help ourselves and therefore it must be okay.  It is not okay and we must speak the truth, with love and with the correct words.

So let's get back to what language to use or not to use in defending marriage.  You must ask yourself again whether or not you truly believe that marriage is, and can only be, between a man and a woman.  If so, then we can say with confidence there is only one kind of marriage.  Right?  Try not to contradict yourself by putting the word "gay or homosexual" with the word marriage.  If it can't be and doesn't exist then do not speak it into existence.  If you choose to use their language, they will use it against you.  How?  Once you allow them to create a new kind of marriage by using their language, all they have to do is say you are discriminating against "blank-marriage".  See how subtle, and yet so simple.  You become your own worst enemy.  This information is probably a decade late, but I'm hopeful that at least some will catch on.

For those of you who have the habit of using their language instead of saying "marriage", don't be undisciplined or lazy and think that what I just said doesn't matter, for not only does it matter, it matters a lot.  You must decide what you believe and then speak the words.  Marriage stands alone for it is what it is.   Do not help your opposition any longer by repeating "their message".  Please!   Discipline yourself and stay on message.

If you were to ask me how I say it, I use these words:

  • Defend marriage (number one choice to say over and over again)
  • I encourage you to stop the destruction of marriage.
  • I support marriage.
  • Please support marriage with me.
  • Marriage is a blessing.
  • Marriage is under attack.
  • Rebuild marriage for the sake of our children.
  • Marriage has always been male and female, and I might add, will always be and cannot be anything but one man and one woman.
  • We must not let marriage be dismantled.
  • Encourage our children to marry.
  • Society didn't create marriage and therefore has no power to redefine it.

Never call it "traditional Marriage" for that implies there is more then one kind of marriage (very subtle).  You will notice that your opposition will never say they are destroying marriage or dismantling it.  They are very disciplined to use their own language and compel you to use it in rebuttal.

The objective for both sides is to frame the message to get agreement

If you ask people if they support marriage, they will say yes.  If you ask them if they want to destroy marriage, they will say no.  If you ask them if society should help rebuild marriages in the US for the sake of our children, they will say yes.  If you ask people if they want to protect marriage, they will say yes.

Remember to frame the issue or your message in a way that the public will support.  So stay on message and love all people, and for the sake of our loving God, never agree with a lie by repeating the lie in order to rebut it.  Simply state your message.  Why give them free advertising?  Frame the truth and stay on message.

*Feel free to e-mail Kim Lehman at TheKimmyView@aol.com

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 Action Points

The Lord knows what is best in all things. God's design of marriage being between a man and a woman must be respected, defended, and protected. Here are some great tips and resources to address this important topic:

1.  Here are some questions answered by Billy Graham:

"Does the Bible approve of some homosexual relationships?" Click here to read Billy Graham's answer.

"Are homosexuals born that way?" Click here to read Billy Graham's response.

"I struggle with homosexual feelings and temptations. Does God hate me? What can I do?" Click here to read Billy Graham's reply.

2. Billy Graham's web site offers help and resources for those struggling with homosexuality. Click here to find help now.

3. In an effort to approve homosexual relationships, some people have attempted to reinterpret what the Bible says. For a reply to such efforts, read What's Wrong with Same-Sex Marriage? (by D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe), Marriage on Trial: The Case Against Same-Sex Marriage and Parenting (by Glenn Stanton and Dr. Bill Maier) and The Homosexual Agenda Exposing the Principal Threat to Religious Freedom Today (by Alan Sears and Craig Osten).

4. Watch this message by Dr. David Jeremiah called I Never Thought I'd See the Day when Marriage Would be Obsolete.

5.  Revive Our Hearts (with Nancy Leigh DeMoss) addresses the topic of homosexuality on her radio program.

About Kim Lehman

Kim Lehman currently serves as the director of Give Cures and state director for Patriot Voices. She serves on the board of Iowan's for Tax Relief and the John Paul II Medical Research Institute. Kim's impressive career includes serving as state director of Concerned Women for America of Iowa, executive director and president for the Iowa Right to Life, being Iowa's Republican National Committeewoman.

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John Rutledge (September 17, 1739 - July 23, 1800) was a signer of the U.S. Constitution. As a delegate to the Constitutional Convention, he chaired a committee that wrote much of what was included in the final version of the United States Constitution. He served as an Associate Justice on the U.S. Supreme Court, and was the second Chief Justice of the Court from July to December 1795.

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