When asked about suicide throughout his ministry, Billy Graham always spoke carefully, relying on the Bible for answers rather than his own understanding:
Q: I've just gotten out of the hospital after trying to take my own life. Things are better with me now and I don't plan to go down that road again, but how can I be sure I won't? Will God help me?
A: Yes, God will help you as you turn to Him and discover what it means to walk with Him every day. The Bible says, "No good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless" (Psalm 84:11).
How does God help us? First, He helps us by giving us the strength to do what is right. When we turn to Christ and ask Him to forgive us and help us, He comes to live within us by His Spirit. We are never alone when we know Christ, for God now dwells within us! He is with us every minute of the day, and He helps us as we turn in faith to Him. His Spirit encourages and helps us when discouragement or temptation comes our way. The Bible says, "The Spirit helps us in our weakness" (Romans 8:26).
He also helps us by reminding us that He loves us, and we are His children forever. If you forget everything else I say, I hope you will remember this: God loves you. He knows all about your struggles and failures, but He still loves you-and the proof is that He was willing to send His only Son into the world to die for you. Your life will never be the same once you realize how much God loves you.
Don't face the future alone, or try to meet it only in your own strength. Instead, by a simple prayer of faith ask Christ to come into your life today-and He will. Then turn to Him every day and thank Him for His love and His constant presence with you.
Q: I've just been diagnosed with an incurable disease that will leave me weaker and in more and more pain as the months go by. Can you give me any reason not to take my own life right now? Not only would it save me from all that suffering, but it would also spare my family. I don't want to be a burden to them.
A: The greatest burden you could ever place on your family would be for you to take your own life. Their confusion, hurt and guilt would be almost endless (no matter what you told them), for they would constantly wonder what they could have done to prevent such a terrible act, and why you chose to reject their love and concern so decisively.
After all, one of the greatest ways we demonstrate our love for someone is to help them in their times of need-and there is no greater time of need than during their final illness. Don't deprive your family of that opportunity, and don't feel that you are only a burden to them. They love you, and these months could be a time when you and your family grow even closer together. Don't lose sight either of the positive impact your example could make on the young people in your family.
My deepest concern, however, is that you aren't ready to die-either now or later. Elsewhere in your letter, you admit you have ignored God all your life. But listen: God still loves you and wants you to spend all eternity with Him in heaven. And He has made this possible by sending His Son into the world to take away your sins. Turn to Christ today, for "now is the time of God's favor, now is the day of salvation" (2 Corinthians 6:2).
Q: Does life have any purpose? My friends all say the only purpose in life is to have a good time. But I've tried that, and if I'm honest I'd have to admit my life is kind of empty. Is this all there is to life?
A: No, this isn't all there is to life - no matter what your friends say. In fact, living only for ourselves and our own pleasures is a dead-end road that will never bring us lasting happiness - as you've discovered.
But God has given us another way - and my prayer is that you will have the courage to find it and follow it, because it alone gives lasting meaning and purpose to our lives. What is that way? It is the way of Jesus, putting Him (instead of ourselves) at the center of our lives, and learning to trust Him and follow Him wherever He leads us. The Psalmist put it this way: "You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand" (Psalm 16:11).
Begin by facing honestly your need of God. He made you, and He alone knows what is best for you. Then by a simple act of faith ask Jesus Christ to come into your life and make you His child forever. God loves you, and life's greatest joy comes from knowing Him and living for Him. God's promise is for you: "If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17).
Then ask God to lead you to a church where you can grow closer to Christ and discover what it means to follow Him every day.